Most of the time when you hear someone say the word Relationship most people think of people in love or maybe dating possibly married. I have alway thought the same way about relationships until I got much older. Tonight I was on my Facebook and looking at pics of all my family and friends.. I was thinking about those how aren't with us any longer and all the sadness flooded over me.
The 1st relationship I can remember was with my Paw Paw Honea. I have a terrible memory about my childhood . I remember snapshots and bits and pieces but somethings I have put aside and I have no idea.. But my grandfather was the best role-model a child would be lucky to have. I did everything with him.. I went to church, picked up cans, we also went to the country to get eggs. See my parent divorced when I was about 3 and That one of the bits and pieces things that are in my memory. My grandfather took on that roll as father. I think he is the reason I am such a sensitive person today.. I am not perfect but I have a big heart.
My mom worked a lot when my sister Eve and I where little. I knew my mom loved us. We just didn't see it like we should have. Don't get me wrong she was a good mom she tried to do things with us when she could. I am thankful for my sister Eve as well. She was always there when we where small children. We today still talk about out relationship with our mom and both have the same feelings about that. See my mom isn't very affectionate, she seems to be more so with her friends, but when Eve and I where little neither of us remember getting hugs from her. We just remember her not being there for us that much. She would sometimes make it up to us but not often.
I never really had much of a Relationship with my father. After he and my mom divorced she stayed around Georgia a year maybe and disappeared to Tennessee. He left my mom to raise my sister and I pretty much alone with no child-support thank God for my Paw Paw or we would have been homeless on the street. I remember as a little kid my sister would say all these bad things about my dad and I would cry and get so mad.. I didn't understand the situation I was only missing my daddy. My mom never kept us way from our father.. but she had to bed him to come get us in the summers,She would cry to him because we missed him. Most of the time that didn't matter. His parents Grandpa and ''Lou Lou'' thats what we called my grandma when we where little. Would pick us up.. My grandfather was a truck driver and my grandmother rode everywhere with him.. They would pick Eve and I up during the summer and take us everywhere. We had great adventures with them.
The Relationship I had with my Nan or my mom's mom was ok I wasn't as close to her when I was little like Eve and my cousin Eddie.. Nan and I became close as I got older. I didn't like her husband. He never let me be a kid when I cam e to visit. I guess as I got older it got somewhat better. I remember working in My Grandmothers Pizza restaurant at a young age washing dishes thinking I was so rich with my $5.00 in quarters that I would spend by the end of the night playing Video games. As an adult I talked to my Nan almost everyday until she got sick. She was sweet and feisty all at the same time.
I was in 3rd grade or going in to 3rd grade when I met my stepfather. I began kinda rocky because I didn't wanna listen to anything he had to say. But the more I got to know him I realized what a great father figure and friend I have. They stayed married about 2 years my mom had my little brother Kenneth. They divorced.. I found out he cheated on my mom with his ex wife my world was turned completely upside down. Mom had her marriage rebound and married a jerk from hell. Thank god he was douche bag and they divorced. My mom and my 1st step father ended up getting back together thank god and they have been back together ever since.
I never counted too many friends as such a great relationship. I had 1 friend I grew up with who I thought to be the best thing that happened to me.. Her name is Carrie.. we where best friend almost all of our lives. But as I sit back and think she really wasn't all that good of a friend she would embarrass me in front of other people she stole one of my boyfriends away of made fun of who I like and then end up going out with them it was like she liked to see me unhappy. I never realized that until I got older and we stopped hanging out because life happens and some people grow apart. I think I didn't wanna see it. As an adult yes I have friend very good friends.. but I can honestly say I don't have a friend to call my best-friend.
I met my ex-husband Matt in 1994 and had our daughter Sarah in 1995 then got married in 1996,we did everything backwards. Matt was the 1st guy I ever truly loved. I thought he was different that anyone else I had ever . I should have guessed wrong 1st of all Carrie sat us up on a blind date. After I was pregnant with Sarah that is when things went down hill. we broke up so many times . I loved him so much I always got back together with him. We where married 2 or 3 months the 1st time he cheated on me. I went back to my moms with Sarah but 3 months later took him back. It happened again when I was pregnant with Hannah in 1998, but this time I didn't comeback.
Matt and I still have a relationship to this day.. we have a friendship we aren't super close but close enough, he know I am there for him if he really need him and I know if I need him he will be my shoulder to cry on and he has been. I will admit I still love him with all my being, but would I ever get back together with him? NO. Just because I love him I am smart enough to know better that to put myself back in the precision to get hurt all over again.
There are more people I neeed to talk about and the relationship I have with them but that will have to wait for another time. But No matter what we are all still family and that is how its always gonna be.
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