Do I Over Exaggerate?

I do wonder that sometimes.. In some situations I don't know if I act correctly for the situation.  My child told me awhile ago she thought she was bi-sexual I didn't blow up over that I am one of the least homophobic people you will ever meet..I  have several gay  and lesbians in my family.. she is 16 now but then she was 13.. I told her that either she is straight or lesbian.. I have been told by family who are lesbian that when someone says they are bi they are either lesbian and afraid to admit it or just trying to fit in with crowd.  I told her that and then I told her I don't care what she is I love her no matter what.. then a few months after that she said she wasn't she wanted to see my reaction since she has bi sexual friends... OK now well with in the last few weeks I was been nosy and I'm really not on a normal basis. I was reading my child's text from some chick that lived in a different area code and they where saying I  love you and stuff like that.. I had a chat with her the next day I was mad not because of the text.. just because she could not  trust me enough to be honest with me anytime I have asked her before. I was fuming. She said I didn't want you to be mad that I like girls and boys.. That isn't true I love that child no matter what or who she chooses. I just totally freaked out when she lied.




Today I about broke down and cried.. it all started out my 2 daughters arguing accusing one another of calling each others names and hitting but both denying it.. I wasn't her I have no idea what is going on? I was trying to figure out away to resolve this problem.. and in my ear is my mom saying you need to make them apologize so I did and Sarah ruined that by licking Hannah on the face and Hannah pitched a fit.. she gets that from me, The lady my mom was friends with did that to me and I went psycho on her. So they where both mad so I wanted this situation to be over and done with I made the both of them look at one another and tell one another I am sorry and that what happened is done and in the past and stop bringing it up. I had the calm and everything was resolved.. My mom chimed in and did not think I handled the situation .. She thought in her own words to beat there ass.. I needed to do that everyday,, if they where her kids she would... She told me all I wanna do is be there friend... Here is what burns me up I know I am not perfect and I have spanked my kids in the past.. well that didn't work.. obviously what I did worked fine and all was well.. I don't try to be buddies with my kids I don't want to be like she was with my sister and I she never told us she loved us as kids she was hardly home she said she was working but that's not true all the time she was all ways bar hopping when we where little.. She always slapped us in the face because out rears would break blood vessels in her hands. I love my kids I tell them everyday I hug them and kiss them. When they act up I have no problem with being a parent and punishing my kids.. I know what works and what don't.. I honestly think my mom hates me and my kids if not it sure seems that way.